My struggle

Everyday I wake up to a battle.  Their is a war going on between my soul and my flesh, my compassion and my anger, my dreams and my nightmares.  Its hard to know, to feel that you were born to be a leader and get past of all your faults that a rational mind brings to the forefront. Now I’m not the type to hang my hat on what others think of me, failure is my greatest foe.
I don’t like defeat, I honestly feel that no matter what the situation is, I will come out on top.  My plan is simple, everyday I wake up I want to be a little closer to becoming the man I know I was born to be. I’m writing this because I know that someone out there is going through it. Sometimes the most hardest thing to do is to get out of Gods way and surrender to his will. Some of us tend to forget that he knows us better than we do, I for one am guilty of this myself. The older I get the more I think about how far the world has come and how little its people have learned. If you want to make an impact on the world don’t just come correct, come with god. Its never too late to call him and he’s always waiting for us to reach out to him. Think about it, I know I will.

Black America, the piss-poor truth

When other races say or do things to our people, we demand that justice be served. But we do more harm to our own race than anyone else. Where are all the black leaders when a young black man kills another young black man? We are the definition of hypocrites. It seems as though every year as a people we get worse. You would think having a black president would inspire our people to finally rise up and show the world that black america can do anything we put our minds to. But sadly, this is not the case.
Our young women have lost all respect for their bodies. Dont believe me? Just go on facebook, twitter or youtube and you will see more young black women showing off body parts than women from other races. Our women hate being called the “b” word but will sing along word for word with songs that use those words to describe them. Our young women are also bringing babies into the world and depending on the government to take care of them, I dont know what you heard but nothing lasts forever.
Our young men are having a gender crisis. Wearing tight jeans and shirts, worrying about their looks more than anything else. Black men in the home were strong and hardworking. Now most of us are lazy and complete idiots.
We spend hundreds of dollars on jordans every month but are hard pressed to spend even one hundred dollars on educational books in our lifetimes. We also spend hundreds of dollars on name brand clothes but are still staying in the ghetto and then have the nerve to say that the the “man” is holding us back!
When one of us talks with a little sense or proper we are quick to say “why you talking so white?” If you are one of the people who thinks talking proper is white than you deserve to be an idiot.
Ask some of our young black teens about an android or iphone and they know everything about it, ask them to solve a simple algebra problem and they are stumped. A lot of yall wont like this because the truth hurts. Im not perfect, but I see my faults for what they are and strive to be a better man daily. 
Im not judging anyone, im telling you whats real. Some of you have the nerve to club all weekend, then act like a saint on a sunday and are quick to say “only god can judge me, he knows my heart.” Yes, he does know your heart, and he knows as soon as you leave church you will go home and continue to do all the things you have been doing unchanged. Now im no pastor, but theres a scripture that talks about being lukewarm and what god will do to those people, but we will save that topic for the time when my very own walk with god is strong and on good ground.
Back to my people, I did not write this to bash my own race, I wrote this to educate my people. Our ancestors from slavery and civil rights times did not go through all they did for black america to become nothing more than a stagnant cesspool. We are a great people, just google black inventions or black contributions to the world and see the many things our people have accomplished, we have so much to offer, so much to do but we have to stop playing the blame game. We have to make a stand and come together, but alas, most will read this, like this, and then forget about it. Well im not waiting on yall, me and my family will be better, we will do better and we will help those who are honestly trying to help themselves. Black america, WAKE UP!!!!!!!

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Stand tall through it all

Everyday is a struggle, we all go through lifes ups and downs and have problems to deal with in our own ways.  No matter how hard life gets, we cant let it break us down. When you are at your lowest moment and have lost all hope, read this and it might be able to help you.
When my oldest daughter (now 7) was born I didnt have a job. I wasnt worried about rent cause I had already paid it up. But this was my lowest moment ever. I felt that even though my bills were paid up that I was less of a man. You have to understand, I am very hard on myself and I despise failure. I wasnt one of those men who didnt want to work, it just that jobs werent calling me in. Everyday I got up and went looking for jobs with no results.  But I never gave up, everyday I would come home and hold my daughter and every morning I would get up and go look jobs all over again. You see my daughters have never allowed me to just abandon all hope. Their smiles brighten up my day, their hugs motivate  me to get up and be a better man each day. When I finally got a call for an interview I was hired on the spot. The very first thing I said was thank you Jesus! Then the first thought I had was, this job came right on time.
You see sometimes we need/have to be humbled before we can appreciate life. It is at our lowest points in life that we find out what we are made of.
To the single mothers who are mother and father, I know its hard, but if you can hang in there, your blessing is right around the corner.
To the unemployed fathers that so badly want to take care of themselves and their kids, never give up hope, faith goes along way.
To the young men and women who feel like everything is there fault, pray.
No matter what you are going through, you can make it.  Ill close with this; the things we go through today, will help show someone way tomorrow. So please, stand tall through it all….

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Love

Love is a word and emotion that gets mixed up with lust far too often. When you love someone, you will change for them, you will honor their love and respect their thoughts.
We have too many young people screaming how they love someone today, but tomorrow their in love with someone. Young ladies hear me out, you dont have to spread your legs for a young man to love you. If he really loves you he wont pressure you, he will wait until you are ready, willing and able.
Young men, there is nothing wrong with being with just one woman, quality beats quantity everytime. Spending huge amounts of money wont buy her love, but it sure will buy you problems. If you want her to love you open the door for her, her out her chair for her, hold her, respect her.
When you really are in love, all you want to do is make her happy. Being in love will make you view yourself in a different way.
Never take love for granted because its hard to find and easy to lose. Cherish it, embrace it and please hold on to it.

The role of a mother

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Getting along with in-laws,should you or shouldnt you?

You should never go out of your way to get along with your mates family. While you should respect them, it is not your job to make them like you. If the man or woman you are with loves you for who you are,thats all that matters. Trying to make your in-laws like you could make there dislike for you grow. If they cant accept you for who you are, dont sweat it. Either they will come around and warm up to you or they wont. Lots of time in-laws are just upset because you are taking someone close from them.  There are fathers who hate their daughters husbands because they feel like there little girl is not their little girl anymore.  You have cousins who hate the fact that they cant run the streets like they used to, and then there are some family members who just think that no one will ever be good enough for their loved one. At the end of the day, as long as your mate loves you, thats all that matters.

If you want a good man, have some respect for yourself

There are good men out there ladies, but are you really ready for one?
A lot of women get passed up by good men due to the way they carry themselves. No man wants a woman who has no self respect. For example, if you are always posting pics on the internet of your body, why would a real man want you. You might get a lot of comments from men on your pictures, bit they just want to sleep you and are willing to tell you what you want to hear in order to achieve their goal. No man wants to share his woman with the world.
Another reason some women cant find mr. right, is because hes right in your face, but you are too busy trying to find what you want instead of what you need. A lot of young women are caught up in a mans “swag”, but swag doesnt mean he is going to treat you like the queen you are. If you have a man who treats you with the upmost respect and loves you no matter what, why are you still looking? Men want to appreciated, and if you dont appreciate him, chances are he will leave you for someone who does. There are some women reading this right now who have already lost there man and regret it daily.
  When a man is with a woman he wants to feel like a man, not a little boy. He doesnt want to be talked to as a little child. You cant treat him like trash one minute, and then be all over him once you want something.
Also if you like to say that all man are dogs, a lot of good men will steer clear from you from the jump. A lot of women make there current men pay for the transgressions of the ex. Just because your last man cheated on you, hit you etc. doesnt mean that your current man will. You should always give him the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.
In closing, im a married man, but if I was single at my current age(28) I can tell you what I wouldnt want in a woman. My womans body should be my very own playground, I should be the only man to see the secret parts of her body. I should be able to explore her body with my body  and not worry about how many of her friends know our intimate details or the way I make her erupt in sheer passion. I should be able to man around her at all times. So if you still havent that man of your dreams, my question is this, are you sure you are ready for him?